Lately, I’ve been reading with interest about the phenomenon of “decision fatigue,” and the more I read, the more I feel like I can relate to it.
Bloggers and journalists point to many different cases of people paring down their daily decisions so they have mental energy left for making more important decisions- from eating the same thing for breakfast to wearing the same general “uniform” each day.
I’m no President Obama when it comes to having to make daily decisions, but this affects me too. This is why I don’t like the mall and love StitchFix. This is why I menu plan a week in advance with many of the same meals on rotation. This is why I set out my clothes the night before – usually jeans and a striped top.
Making decisions often drains me. If I’m faced with too many decisions, even seemingly simple ones like what to wear or what to eat or what time we need to leave the house, it eventually overloads me and drains me of the patience that I need to deal with things that pop up during the day.
Decision fatigue is also a huge reason why I don’t change up Brenna’s skin care routine each day.
All it takes is to publicly write about a health problem, and suddenly strangers come out of the woodwork with suggestions. Someone’s daughter has excema and this cream really helps. Someone’s aunt tried this lotion and swears by it. Someone’s sister’s best friend’s dad’s cousin thinks this product is the answer to Brenna’s skin condition.
Save for the crazy people – because there are a few of those too – I greatly appreciate hearing about others’ experiences and what has worked for them. I even run a lot of products and suggestions by Brenna’s dermatologist, and he’ll tell me any concerns he has or say “if you want to try it, go for it.” But when it comes to actually trying anything new on Brenna, the decision fatigue sets in. We get pretty set in our routine, and it’s working well for us. f something isn’t working well or we encounter a new problem, we look for new solutions. We ask other families who are affected with Harlequin, or ichthyosis in general. We ask our medical team.
Maybe there is something that works better. But it’s tiring chasing after better. It’s tiring trying new things and deciding what to use, how much to use, where to use it and when to use it.
too many options!!
But if it’s working, we don’t go out of our way to try something else. We’re completely open to Brenna trying new products as she gets older and chooses to do so herself – and can explain how something feels. (I hate the thought of a new product stinging or not feeling good to her without her being able to express that right now.)
With little ones at home, our days are jam-packed with enough decisions as it is, and the rest of my mental energy is typically spent on my writing projects. Adding in a new part to Brenna’s skin care regimen usually feels like too much in the day-to-day, especially when we feel like what we’re doing is working well enough for us and for her.
Do you get decision fatigue? How do YOU simply your days so that you’re not making too many decisions?
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